Friday, September 25, 2009

TBWCYL Day 268 - Hey Girlfriend!

I have been dreading today ever since I saw the page in The Book. Today I was to...

Contact an old Girlfriend and Offer to Meet Up!!!

I really didn't want to do this. I have nothing against my old girlfriends per se but the want to get back together and talk about old times is not the most pleasing idea in the world. I have had a total of 6 actual people I would consider girlfriends and I know how to contact two of them if I ever needed to. Well, today I needed to and I bit the bullet. I almost considered lying to all of you and saying I couldn't contact anyone but I respect you all way to much for that.

Here are the girls I had to choose from(in chronological order)

Nicole: We met while working in a fast food burrito place. She was my first kiss at the ripe old age of 16. She was also my first foray into anything sexual and I learned a lot from this relationship...all 6 months of it. She is also the topic on a previous post I had. She and I fought occasionally over her want to smoke weed and it led to her dumping me. Ironically, after she dumped me I finally lost weight, got contacts, and a haircut and was the most attractive I had ever been.

This was my hardcore Christian girlfriend. She was younger than me by a year or so and we mostly had to stay in her parents presence when we were at her house. This was a short lived 3 months but was pretty serious in terms of high school. She broke up with me because she was afraid it would get too serious but she was my prom date so I still took her. I am a schmuck and should have told her to suck it but I didn't.

Ah Vanessa, the one that got away if I ever had one of those. She was older, in drama and at a different school. I met her randomly and somehow asked her to her prom on the first day I met her. We dated before the prom but nothing ever happened and I think it was all because I didn't make any moves. This did lead to me getting a date with someone else though. This one doesn't count as a breakup but just sort of ended.

I was a Senior, she was a Sophomore and way to young for me. We had friends that were dating and accompanied them to a movie. While standing outside the theatre, our friends were kissing in front of us and after saying something like, "I guess we are going to have to start making out too", she responded with "Prove It" and I leaned in and we started making out. It only lasted for a month but it was a fun little month. Sadly enough, she broke up with me.

We started dating our Senior Year and I was engaged after we graduated. We lived together for about 11 months and things started to die down and we both realized we weren't ready for marriage. I were on and off again through my Sophomore year in college and tried to stay friends but things fizzled out. I was the instigator in this break-up which sort of broke the mold for all of my other relationships.

: Similar to the Heidi scenario, I got my wife with a challenge of making out. We were both drunk and she kept asking for someone to make out with her, I volunteered and she backed down. Four or five tries later, we were in a room where I refused to take advantage of her(I know, I am a pussy) and she subsequently got all puky and had to leave the room. On a more sober night, I asked if she would like to stay over and she said yes. I goaded her with "You are full of it" and "You won't do it" and she walked up stairs and slept in my room. No, we didn't have sex but it was our first kiss and if I would have thought about it, was a pretty good standard to how our relationship has been since then. Hell, I married her so hopefully there won't be a break-up on this one.

So, who did I contact? Well, a while back I got an email from Heidi via my LinkedIn account. She found my name and shot me a quick hello. We chatted via email and when I told her I was married she said congrats and I haven't heard from her since. Today I sent her a quick email just asking how things were going. I don't see us meeting up as we are 6 hours away from each other but maybe we can have lunch together sometime when I am home.

That is all,


6 Ripples in the pond:

Carrie said...

Well that's not so painful, now is it. Here I was expecting a horror story...

sas said...

This is very High Fidelity of you :)

Lola Lakely said...

I liked learning about the different categories of girlfriend. I think nowadays with chatting online- that kind of is considered as meeting up. SO I think you are done with this task.

Soda and Candy said...

Ooh excellent relationship stories!!! I love those. I wouldn't be friends with anyone I dated before because the reasons why we broke up tend to be reasons I don't want to be friends with them. Being in a different country is great!

ladytruth said...

At least none of them broke up with you because they discovered they were gay, like that poor fellow in the movie 'Feast of love.' And it seems like you have a pretty darn good marriage which means those relationships and break ups must have taught you something, right?

Addy's Daddy said...

Ladytruth, I wouldn't go that far. I chalk Trin's good marriage to the fact that Diana, much like the Amazon with the same first name, has great patience and strength in the face of men twice her size.

...sings, "Wonder Woman, all the world is waiting for you!"