Monday, October 26, 2009

TBWCYL Day 298 - Adopting an Identity

I have never been that kid that wonders if he is adopted. This is in part because I resemble my father and mother in enough ways that it would be just downright impossible for them to have adopted me. Also, I have seen pictures of my mother pregnant with me and I don't think they would have had the forethought to have forged those pictures for my well being.

So when yesterday's task came about it became null and void. I was to call the National Adoption Information Clearinghouse at (301) 231-6512 if I have ever felt "different from your parents or your siblings". I definitely feel different than my sister but she and I only share a mother which is why things are opposite for us. She rebelled and I didn't, she has dark skin and I don't, and she has a last name different than mine.

So, I didn't call because I haven't ever felt different from my parents, though feeling different along with my parents would be another story. And honestly if I was adopted, I wouldn't want to know. I have a cousin who is adopted and the problems he had with his identity were massive and destructive because he couldn't reconcile the idea that someone didn't want him and constantly sought them out. If I were adopted I would just want to let it be. People who adopt are usually loving and want a child and I don't know why I would ever want to go back and find out the past when two people unselfishly took me into their home and loved me.

That is all,


5 Ripples in the pond:

mo.stoneskin said...

I've never had a close friend who was adopted, but I hate to think of the identity struggles that could result- they are hard enough anyway!

Lola Lakely said...

My 7 year old sister is adopted. I know I don't think about her any differently than I do my other sister Sara but I worry about her when she gets older. Right now she only half-heartedly complains by saying "I'm sick of being the only Chinese person in this family." I hope she never thinks for one second that she is any less because she's adopted.

Soda and Candy said...

I too resemble my parents far too closely to be adopted.

Not sure whether that's a good thing or a bad thing.

; )

Addy's Daddy said...

I could easily be adopted. My whole family has dark hair and I have the red. Also, they are all into sports and crap American beers with Light in the title and I think those taste like watery pee.

Not that I have ever tasted pee, mind you....

Trinity said...

I just multiply the struggles a natural born child goes through and mix in the additional factors that influence them and the results are just so overwhelming.

Lola - I didn't know you had an adopted sister. That is so cool.

Thomas - You were adopted. Your birth parents were Little Orphan Annie and Macaulay Culkin